The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family

Length-1 hour, 26 seconds

Deborah Harper, President of Psychjourney, interviews Ms. Eleanor D. Payson, M.S.W., author of The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family published Julian Day Publications.

Ms. Eleanor D. Payson, M.S.W.

Eleanor Payson is a licensed martial and family therapist, practicing individual, marital, and family therapy for the past twenty-four years. Graduating from the University of Michigan in 1983 with her Masters in Social Work, she has continued her education on issues ranging from; chemical dependency and codependency, adult children of alcoholics, narcissism and borderline personality disorders, relationship therapy, and attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder.

In 1993, Eleanor trained personally with Dr. Harville Hendrix to become a certified imago therapist. Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., in his book, Getting the Love You Want, develops the concepts, techniques, and skills of imago therapy. Helping couples achieve more rewarding and fulfilling relationships is one of Eleanor's greatest passions and goals. She has conducted numerous workshops teaching couples conflict resolution skills and the beginning concepts of imago therapy.

Since 1993, Eleanor has increasingly specialized in the unique and challenging difficulties that adult with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder face. Eleanor has been a presenter with Authur Robin, Ph.D. at the national ADDA and CHADD conferences. Visit her website.

Comments

[John Canta]

I recently had an engagement that got broken off by the woman. Through out the realtionship she has strongly indicated hostile feelings toward her father and pretty much distrusts all men and many women, she feels her mother suffers from bordeline personality disorder, she is 35 once divorced no children, a heavy dinker. she is on 100+mg of zoloft and takes xanax as well from time to time, she has told me she has drank in the past enoug so she bleeds out of her ass, etc etc.

She also works full time as a highly paid pharetceutical rep and travels a lot. She hates her job. She is self admitted to being OCD and having suffered from depression in the past with some suicidal thoughts. Certain statements she has made indicate to me that she may have had some auditory halluncinations prezoloft???

Anyway this happened twice during the relationship and finally when she calle dthe weddding off 2 days before the date in Hawaii. We live in Michigan. Well it was just like a light switch went off. It was like she just shut the love off over one argument. We did not argue a lot.

Why am i writing. Well inspite of all I have said I had a great time with this gal and I love her a lot. She says she'll never see me again. I tend to believe that.

Is there any way you can reason with such a person or is it a situation I should run like hell from. I really don't want to lose her, but she has told me to stay away which is what you have to do legally. By the way i am a lawyer

[John Canta]

I recently had an engagement that got broken off by the woman. Through out the realtionship she has strongly indicated hostile feelings toward her father and pretty much distrusts all men and many women, she feels her mother suffers from bordeline personality disorder, she is 35 once divorced no children, a heavy dinker. she is on 100+mg of zoloft and takes xanax as well from time to time, she has told me she has drank in the past enoug so she bleeds out of her ass, etc etc.

She also works full time as a highly paid pharetceutical rep and travels a lot. She hates her job. She is self admitted to being OCD and having suffered from depression in the past with some suicidal thoughts. Certain statements she has made indicate to me that she may have had some auditory halluncinations prezoloft???

Anyway this happened twice during the relationship and finally when she calle dthe weddding off 2 days before the date in Hawaii. We live in Michigan. Well it was just like a light switch went off. It was like she just shut the love off over one argument. We did not argue a lot.

Why am i writing. Well inspite of all I have said I had a great time with this gal and I love her a lot. She says she'll never see me again. I tend to believe that.

Is there any way you can reason with such a person or is it a situation I should run like hell from. I really don't want to lose her, but she has told me to stay away which is what you have to do legally. By the way i am a lawyer

[salman solangi]

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i read a your book wizard of o nasarees one topic is butifull book i like in faimly and other topics in book .pleas Dont mind request
pleas i no job and no buisnis take me one job pls give me one chans me pls Thank you so mach
my postal code.66160 thehri distt.khairpur mir's sind pakistan

[Evie]

I read your book and can only tell you how grateful I am that I sought it out. It put a name to the emotional abuse I had been suffering from for years. It validated and helped me to acknowledge that my reality was very much real. Much of the pain and suffering is over because now I know what I have been dealing with and I know what I need to do about it. Thank you so very much. Your work I am sure has touched many lives. God bless you.